Compared to Texas, the dating world abroad is nearly non-existent. Make no mistake, if you consider hooking up with someone and y’all don’t speak until you hookup again dating, then sure you’re dating.  It never ceases to amaze me how girls will have sex with a guy, after only knowing each other for the night, and think that there is ‘something there’ or believe that they are ‘dating’.  Of course, there will always be that exception couple that had sex the first night they met and ended up dating, but lets face it we really only have heard the stories from a friend of a friend that knew some girl. 

After ending what seemed to be long relationship in college, I found myself having to dust off and reread my book of dating games I once knew better than the back of my hand.  Obviously, when you are in the bar/club scene you will have no problem meeting people, but what happens when you aren’t looking to have casual sex. Now, don’t get me wrong I will never discourage any of my friends from having casual sex, as long as they know what they are getting themselves into and they are being safe, then I am all for it! But what happens when you meet someone in the club and don’t have sex. 

About a month ago, I picked a target in one of the very popular beach clubs in Barcelona and decided to see how far I could take this by pulling out some of the old tricks. So, I explained that I am just “not that type of girl” (that goes home with someone on the first night) and that I would never play games.  After hanging out several more times and still never giving in, my friends began to ask me how does it work, how is it possible to meet someone genuine in a club notorious for one-night-stands not relationships. I began to wonder: is it possible that playing games is the way to start and keep a relationship?